Dear YWCC staff,
Our son returned from the Clinic a couple of months ago and we will always be grateful for what you managed to accomplish with him. After years of behavioural problems (the last year and a half worsened by his addiction to cannabis), various types of regular care and looking for the right type of help for him, us and his sisters, we had lost hope. We all suffered: all of our lives revolved around our 15-year-old son who had made himself the king of our family. We were at our wit’s end when we couldn’t find the help we thought would really do the trick.
Meanwhile, our son had realised it couldn’t go on like this – not for him and definitely not for us. One night, he showed us a video about YWCC. A friend of his had gone there and he figured it might be the solution for his problems as well. My first thought was that our situation wasn’t that bad, but later that night he admitted he was smoking a lot of weed again, despite promises that he wouldn’t. We registered him right away. Despite the problems and our sense of powerlessness, we did have mixed feelings: 10 weeks was a long time and, most importantly, would it even work?
He left for YWCC several weeks later and a sense of calm entered our house. No longer did we have to walk on eggshells, hide our wallets, ask ourselves where he was and whether he’d be coming home. No more lies, manipulation, or threats… It took a while to get used to but, boy, did we need it!
Right after he left, we had to write the ‘impact letter’. It was very difficult, but it also came as a relief to write down what his behaviour had meant to us individually and as a family.
We had just gotten used to the calm when we got a phone call from the Clinic. We were shocked, because there was supposed to only be contact during the first five weeks in case of an emergency. Our son wanted to come home, he had had enough of it and thought we should just come and pick him up that very night. Thankfully, I mustered the courage to tell him we would not be coming for him. As a result, he committed fully to the programme and, come ‘bonding day’, we were able to hug a very happy son. That day was exactly as it was meant to be: a day of re-connecting. We saw he had been working really hard and we started to think that this might actually work! After bonding day, it was really nice to talk to him twice a week. We worked towards his homecoming together.
In the meantime, we really benefitted from the parent sessions. They were intense, but very valuable. We had to change as well in order to improve the situation at home. We were finally heard and understood, realising we were not alone in our problems. The fellows’ arrival day was very emotional and we will never forget it. Once more, we saw the efforts the coaches put in for our kids. We have a tremendous amount of respect for them.
The first weeks of having our son back home were quite exciting. He has changed so much, yet we were still on the lookout for a sudden outburst. So far, so good! We apply what we have learned, he applies what he has learned. And it is actually working! We are confident it will stay this way. His stay in the clinic has given us a new start as a family. Once more, a big thank you for all the people at YWCC that made this possible.
Jet, a grateful mom
Dear YWCC staff,
A year and a half ago, I took my 16-year-old son to Eindhoven in the hopes he would be able to find himself again. It turned out to be a difficult moment.
After bonding day, I drove home with my girlfriend and I was so emotional… He no longer was the monster I helped getting on that bus in Eindhoven, but a boy whose eyes smiled. We were very confident.
Unfortunately, I got very sick not long after and ended up in a coma and wasn’t able to experience his homecoming – which really traumatised him. Yet another one in his short life. For some reason, he found the strength to stay away from the drugs and the alcohol and I’m so grateful for that!
Now, when we talk, the time he spent in the Clinic comes up regularly. He talks about the safety he felt, the togetherness of the fellows and the dedication of the coaches. He would like to return to show how well he is doing and how little energy it takes to just be himself.
Give me the power… the courage… and the wisdom – it is still necessary every once in a while, but we do it together, because I had to learn how to accept as well.
Thank you very much.
Rick, Tom’s proud father
Dear YWCC staff,
My 20-year-old daughter completed the programme in the Clinic. She suffered from anxiety, compulsions and panic disorders. She came back in September and I can only praise her transformation. She left an anxious little girl and returned a lovely young woman. It is incredible what they were able to achieve in 10 weeks over there. A truly professional team is at work in the Clinic! Bonding day in the Clinic was very impressive. Not all of it was easy – I underestimated the effort I would have to make as a parent. It is possible that your entire system will get turned upside down, which was what happened to us. That requires hard work and professional support. Just don’t forget this is really necessary and everyone will turn out for the better. YWCC won’t leave you alone here either; they provide you with referrals where necessary. It was an experience that has changed our lives forever. Hats off! I hope every family/child that needs this type of care will find their way to this clinic.
Dear YWCC staff,
On 25 September 2013, we took our son Mark to Eindhoven so he could join you in the Clinics.
After everything we had already gone through, another difficult time dawned on us when we did not know what was happening to him there, how he felt and whether he could do everything that was expected of him. We just had to remain confident – I clearly remember Janet saying he is in very capable hands! He was!
We entered the parent programme and also did not really know what to expect. We were insecure about everything – you must have noticed. There was also a lot we didn’t understand.
Not long after, a letter arrived from the Clinic. He wrote that he was doing well and that he enjoyed this completely different life he had ended up in. It all sounded really good.
When bonding day came around, we were extremely nervous. We started with a group conversation, had a bite to eat and then… the door opened and a large, radiant Mark ran toward us and hugged us (all we could see were his eyes – there was life in them!). It was amazing to see our child like that again!
Six months later, he is still clean. Generally speaking, he’s doing really well. He falls at times, but gets up every time and he improves every day – step by step. After all, patience is a virtue.
We are forever grateful for your ceaseless efforts for these kids. We are happy we found you (thanks to my brother) and, above all, that you gave Mark his life back. He can move on, is rebuilding his life, has a job, people like him again and are no longer afraid, they pay him compliments and that makes him feel really good.
We’ll celebrate in style today with presents, letters, happiness – all of which comes with a sense of intense gratitude for YWCC.
All the best,
Frans and Neeltje
Dear YWCC staff,
After numerous years of asking help for our son and his serious behavioural problems (stealing, lying, couldn’t stay in school, no respect for us or his environment), we could not take it anymore and kicked him out of the house. When someone told us about Yes We Can Clinics, it became clear this was OUR last resort and HIS last chance. Right away, during the intake, we felt we were finally understood, that something was really wrong and that they knew what they were talking about. Most importantly, however, they could and wanted to help us. The first five weeks without any contact were difficult, but with each passing week, we became increasingly sure that they were working hard with our child to find out where his problems came from and how he could deal with them. During bonding day, we already saw a child who had changed significantly. The boy we used to know appeared from behind his mask.
After he finished the programme and came home, we could finally recognise him again. He learned a lot, but we did too. We experience life in such a different way now. Calm, harmony and especially mutual respect has returned to our family. And our son? He’ll get there!
Dear YWCC staff,
Last week, I went to the Clinic for bonding day. The things I saw there were incredible. Your colleagues’ commitment was clear for everyone to see, the reception and guidance during the day were wonderful.
It was great to see our kids are in such great hands.
The entire organisation in Eindhoven and the Clinic is fantastic, but I especially enjoyed your colleague Mike, who ‘led’ the conversations between the children and their parents/bonus parents. Very good, straight to the point. Emphatic and sensitive. It was an incredible experience.
My son still has four weeks to go and is on the right track. I am convinced that, with your guidance, he will get very far.
And yes, I know, he has to do it himself.